There is a very convincing way to postpone pleasure that doesn’t look like postponing life at all. First you finish your work, sort out the house, deal with the things you’ve been putting off, make a little more money and get everything under control. Then you can relax. Then you can travel, go somewhere beautiful, spend an afternoon doing nothing, have a long dinner, open the good bottle of wine or finally do that thing you’ve been wanting to do for months. The problem is th

I never really decided one day that swinging was going to become part of my life. It started much more naturally, with my partner and me simply being curious about what we might enjoy together.

There is one thing I have always needed in order to feel completely free when I’m travelling or trying something outside the ordinary. I need to feel safe with the person beside me. It doesn’t really matter whether we’re lying on a naturist beach, travelling somewhere new, staying at an adult resort or simply finding ourselves in a situation neither of us has experienced before. If I don’t feel that I can rely on my partner, the rest of the experience loses its meaning for me